In my time as a psychologist, I have heard countless men and women describe feeling "not good enough." Often, the individual has falsely internalized a message about their own competency and worth. Just as painful, the person usually perceives that others around them (coworkers, friends, etc.) are perfectly competent and self-assured about said competency. The reality is: most people experience self-doubts and feelings of being an impostor from time to time. Countless actors, entrepreneurs, and writers have admitted to feelings of being an impostor, despite fame, fortune, and success. Research shows that women in male-dominated fields are more susceptible to this phenomenon. (I'm looking at you, women in tech). If you have ever experienced the following thoughts, you are in good company:
"I'm a fraud."
"I'm only here because I got lucky."
"I don't know what I'm doing."
"They'll see this is all just a sham."
"I'm not as good as the others. They DESERVE to be here."
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4. Lean In is an organization that empowers women to thrive in the workplace in the face of discrimination and gender inequality. Excellent articles, videos, and research on how to self-advocate and thrive in the workplace. Bonus tip: You can connect to local women through a "Lean In Circle."